Divorce may be the biggest crisis of adulthood. The worst thing about divorce is that we look at ourselves, our lives and our decisions and to assess where we are and where we want the power. On the other hand is the best thing about divorce, we see about ourselves, our lives and our decisions and to assess where we are and where we want the power.
The losses encountered in the case of divorce often trigger childhood insecurities, leaving an adult withdiminished emotional capacity and will to act out the emotions and repressed sexuality in adolescence. There are things you do in the way of moving through the divorce overturned. As I see it, but the strategies for the crisis of divorce and for the next phase of life - Tag - fall into two categories - the strategies for strategies of action and attitude.
Strategies
1. Create a concrete action plan. Enter your personal resources and how to use these resourcesNext month, six months and next year.
2. The key to healing from divorce with a strong support system. Create your own support system, inviting people to join in the quality of your inner circle. This support should include family members, friends old and new friends. Find other singles who share common interests - even if you are organizing a special event or project. Connect with your neighbors and members of your community. Or start a support groupor meet-up. Take the time to share breakfast, a movie or a potluck meal. Po 'time for oneself is good, but it is important to avoid isolation and feeling alone.
3. Become an activist. Make a difference. Being involved with a cause that is bigger than your personal problems.
4. The meditation and breathing. If we are anxious we tend to hold their breath. With a breathing meditation, we can take in more oxygen. It allows more oxygen to think.
5. Discover localResources. Act like a tourist, but the goal, an expert has to offer, your city has become. Find free or low cost activities in your community. Take a walk. Visit the park, beach, museum and public library.
6. If finances are tight, you will find more creative ways to make products and services you need access. Barter. Recycle. A negotiated. Create.
7. Clean-out to get rid of clutter and memories of your ex. If physical space is disorganized, you create anegative effect. If you clean your house, are honoring the house - the temple of the soul. Get rid of "stuff" is a way to make room for the new person.
8. Living within your means and clean up your credit card. Use of skills or the help of a friend who knows how to create a budget.
9. Apply. Save a pet from the shelter and receive unconditional love and companionship back.
Attitude strategies
1. Start your day with a positiveAffirmation.
2. Make a list of gratitude, and focus on how the glass is half your life (or more) full. Concentrate on the good - things that you enjoy in life.
3. Celebrate, celebrate, celebrate. New rituals of celebration to enjoy this year and in coming years.
4. Avoid comparing your interior to other sites. When you think of yourself as a victim happy to feed the negative emotions. Every life has its ups and downs. Half of all adultsThe population is divorced, arrived for most of its fund. So if you look around and everything seems happy to remember that you do not live only failed, had to go through a marriage.
5. See the crisis as an opportunity programs. Do not dwell on your losses, suffering, and let them go.
6. Accept the people around you, as they are. Instead, focus on what to change in you and your preferences.
7. If you are down, remind yourself that next year will be different,Next year will be different, and everything is temporary.
8. Use the transition of divorce as a trial period. Find out what mistakes you made in the report and how to avoid these mistakes in the future. A therapist or support group can help in this effort.
9. Calling a truce with your ex, especially when you have children, let him / her know you want to find solutions that work for both. It 'difficult with a person who says, arguing: "I want to findSolutions that work for you and me. "
10. Take your time. Do not rush in his next report, because you are alone or feel rejected. The longer you wait the better your chances of success. It's OK to see (a shopper's paradise), but not too fast now.
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